Am I being unreasonable?

Question

Hi ladies, just need a bit of an outsider opinion!
So my partner works away Monday to Friday and only home late Friday night, so this weekend just gone he went to a football game on Saturday, left at 6.30am and came home 6.30pm and then Saturday night his sister was having a party, (we're staying with my in laws atm) so me being pregnant (no one knows, so big secret) just wanted to go upstairs and chill out, my partner wanted to join the party, I asked him if he'd come up with me for an hour since i hadn't seen him all day and he told me he wanted to go see everyone instead and hed just see me on the Sunday. I think he was being a bit shit since he had been gone all day and then was away again at 5am this morning, but he thinks he didn't do anything wrong and thinks I'm being stupid that I'm hurt by him not wanting to spend time with me, but am I being unreasonable???

Answer

My man works the same hours m-f out of town and leaves Sunday nights. I used to get very upset that he wasn’t with me 24/7 while he was home. It took me awhile to realize that he works so hard 12–14 hour days and sleeps in hotels so when he does come home he (rarely) takes “him” time. And I respect that. I enjoy my “me” time quite often so try and understand that he needs to unwind also. It’s stressful on a person to work and feel unappreciated and forced into doing what is ladies want all the time. Maybe explain it that way next time and he’ll spend a few minutes just chatting with you! :)

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My boyfriend works the same schedule out of town Mon-Fri and he is home Friday evening until Monday at 4am (right now he has a 4 hour drive) and we are inseparable on the weekends. Usually we go everywhere together. I was extremely sick for about a month and half and I spent most of my weekends in the bed. I work full time Mon-Fri and that was the most miserable time for both of us but he stepped up and done more for the kids and even spent more time out of the house at his brothers or whatever so I could rest. If he would have pulled that shit on me I would be furious but that’s just because we are so close. Every relationships different you just have to decide what is acceptable and what isn’t. I spend my life waiting on him to come home to me every weekend and I couldn’t imagine being away from him for 12 hours much less him not wanting to come cuddle me for an hour because I was sick with his baby.

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I might be biased because my husband is home every night with me and since I don’t work, if he goes away for a work trip, I go with him. I couldn’t imagine being away from him that much and i probably would have been pissed too if he didn’t wanna spend time with me. I think since your hormones are going crazy too, that probably played a part in you being so upset, since you’re used to his schedule.

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What they said or ask to spend time with him and what he is doing.  So your not missing him so much.

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I think he should have made a but time for you either it being 30min to an hour or two something. You weren't asking for all of his time and he should have spent time with his family. Or you could have spent 30 min together 30 min both of yall with his family.

Am I being unreasonable?

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