Overly strict parent

Sophia

I really don’t know how to start this but here goes nothing. So I’m 19, a college freshman and I live at home. I’ve recently gotten into a relationship with the most amazing person in the world (we hit 6 months on the 23). But it seems like my mom has gotten extremely strict since I entered my relationship, I mean she has always been like this but it’s gotten worse. She told me not that long ago that she owns me. I can’t remember exactly how that came up. I told her that she doesn’t own me and she responded with “as long as you live here I own you”. She also told me that there are rules to what kind of music I listen to. My boyfriend and I have done sexual stuff and I know for a fact she were to find out I know she would judge me and punish me probably by taking my phone off me and not letting me go over my boyfriends house instead he would have to come here where we are supervised. She believes sex should wait till you’re married. I’m going to Disney with my boyfriend and his dad in August and it was a battle to get her to let me go because she didn’t like the room set up. I’m going to have to sleep over his house the night before and I know that’s going to cause an issue. I wanna move out but I don’t have a license yet or a job. She’s told me before that she doesn’t trust me on my own and doesn’t think I’ll survive in the real world. I feel like I’m trapped and I can’t be myself. When I talk about moving out my mom and my dad both say I won’t make it on my own and that I need them. When I’m told stuff like that I believe it especially when it’s my parents (mostly my mom) telling me. I just don’t know what to do.