If they have been in jail or prison do you immediately discredit them?

Ashley • Mrs. Hainline 🤰🏻Pregnant with baby 2.

I saw a post the other day a woman made about her husband going to prison and my goodness so many women were talking poorly about he’s in prison he’s worthless. I think a lot of people fail to get educated on the systems to begin with anyways but my older brother has been in and out of the jail system since he went to juvenile detention and got probation when he was 9. There’s so much more to the story but man am I so proud of him today as he’s an amazing person, he works hard to support his girlfriend and daughters and hell yes he still struggles daily with his behavior because he is bi-polar diagnosed. To me, theres way to many factors to criticize someone just because they’ve been there, but there’s a stigma so I’m curious to see what everyone has to say on it.

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I think it depends on the crime and whether or not they're a repeat offender.

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✋🏼😈 ℕ𝓞т𝐭๏∂คч S卂ţᗩή😈👊🏼 • Apr 20, 2019
I think even repeat offender is kinda bs too. Technically I’m a repeat offender but 3 of the 4 times I was arrested and booked was off suspicion instead of an actual sting op. A lot of the times especially with prostitution, if u have a record it’s easier to convict someone for a repeat offense than it is to prove a different crime or person. And we see that happen a lot in underprivileged communities. But for the most part I do agree with u

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Qu • Apr 20, 2019
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IM more understanding when it comes to non-violent offenders. If they’re a violent criminal I find it difficult to trust them. Crimes against children, sex offenders etc, I can’t ever trust or forgive and it will be very hard for me to be around them.

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Nah. I know people who have been to jail. They aren’t bad people. And a lot of the time, they do things a lot of people do. They just got caught. I think we’ve all done something illegal at least once in our lives. And maybe it wasn’t something that would get you jail time, but still. People like to put themselves on a pedestal. Although I’m not sure I’d try having a stable relationship with someone who is on parole and still isn’t doing what they should be.

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ri • Apr 20, 2019
Also, I have a friend who is currently in prison for being an accomplice or something and he legitimately didn’t even know what was going on that night. The people he was hanging out with planned a robbery and he had no idea. The one guy just asked him to drive and they lied to him about where they were going and what they were doing. I understand why he is in prison, but I still think that’s fucked up.

J

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No I take each case by case. I know people who have gone to prison due to a fucking loophole and mandatory sentencing laws, and blatant racism. Knowing injustice exists and still judging people without the whole truth is contradictory

Na

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It depends on the crime for me. If you took someone's life or went to prison for rape, child molestation, or any other particularly heinous crime, I can't look past that. But generally speaking, I do believe in redemption and second chances and people who have served their time and are ready to contribute to society need support and we have to allow them to grow and move past their previous regrettable decisions. I took a chance and hired someone with a felony on their record. They were qualified and had a great interview and were very sincere in discussing what happened with me. It was a good decision, he is a hard worker, takes care of his family, and has genuinely turned a new leaf. I know other people as well that have turned their life around after prison. But I also know people that haven't changed at all. So it's not entirely black and white.

Di

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Depends. People in jail or prison for non-violent crimes I do not judge. But violence and sexual assaults I am leery of.

Em

Em • Apr 23, 2019
Exactly.

As

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Drug crime? No. Violent crime? I am absolutely, 10000% judging. There’s no excuse to harm another being.

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As • Apr 21, 2019
....I don’t care if people choose to do/take drugs 🤷🏽‍♀️😂 I just don’t. They’re not hurting anyone but themselves

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Nini • Apr 20, 2019
Because drugs don't harm anyone 😭😭

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Brittany • Apr 20, 2019
Lol so it’s ok for people to just do drugs and sell drugs adding to the already terrible drug problem in this world🤣 judge yourself on that statement

St

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All depends in why they are in jail....I personally would never settle down with someone who is in and out of jail

Be

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I believe this is a case by case thing. My husband went to jail when he was young then served 9 years in the military and now is extremely hard working and he's a wonderfully family oriented man. I know many people who have been to jail or prison but aren't the same people they were then. Most have kicked drug habits that landed them there. Now they are productive members of society who love their families and make make monetary and physical charitable contributions to their communities.But of course there are other people who are absolute trash.

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The post in question was her boyfriend, not husband I believe. He was in for doing crack, and tried to dodge the bail bondsman. He took advantage of her. Yep, he was trash!