Vagina Worries

Okay ladies, so since I had my son I felt like it's not looked right. I have these alien like thing that sticks out of it but not like a polapse more like this fleshy thing, and I can see like the ribbing of my vaginal wall. I also have a sebaceous cyst my Dr advised not to remove unless it really bothered me but it's making me self conscious, as who I'm with always points it out and makes me feel bad. On top of that I got a wand he bought for me off Amazon, I used it like a lot the first day, and noticed I developed this small, sore and sometimes itchy bump that looks like an enlarged vein that goes up towards my clitoris. I feel like vaginas aren't the prettiest but I don't feel like she's looking sexy, and it's making me anxious and self conscious. However I'm so nervous to schedule an appointment, it's still weird to have a Dr looking at my lady bits. Not really looking for an answer just venting. If you have advise you can post it too though. Gonna call this week.