Where is the empathy?

Question

I love my husband but he can lack in empathy at times. Haha I am going through all the initial testing and blood work to figure out what's going on with me. I have cysts on my ovaries and high AMH and more intrusive testing next week. I already feel tired and overwhelmed by all the appointments and things I have to do. I try to talk to my husband about how I feel and while I don't expect him to get how I feel as he's a man and doesn't experience painful periods and having things shoved in places (lol) and ultrasounds etc nor is he paying for any of this...so at times I feel angry about the whole thing. I then find articles trying to explain procedures so he understand the process and try to show some consideration and support but he just has nothing to say. It's like where is the empathy? Anyone else feel like this?

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I very often feel like this but when I went mad at him because he doesn’t talk about it or ask me anything, he already knew more than I did because he stays up at night googling it. I think sometimes men don’t like to talk about things, it doesn’t mean they don’t care. Like someone else said I think because they can’t fix it they don’t like that they aren’t in control xx

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Yes my boyfriend comes across like this but in the odd time iv cried with frustration at him he says he is upset aswell Nd its not just ne gping throught it. he feels guilty because he cant fix it and he thinks that husbands or boyfriends are meant to fix all their girlfriends problems. So he basically feels as inadequate as i do :(

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Oh yes I definitely do! Like you could give him the most emotional article to read but he still wouldn’t show anything! 
I found a solution through my husband’s family. Speak to them and when they drop hints to him he picks up on them and then asks me what they meant. That’s when he listens, arguing with him won’t help. 
Another way which I prefer, as I don’t like telling people my business is writing stuff down to him, how his lack of empathy makes me feel etc, going out with him having a good time and telling him what’s also been on my mind lately. 
Not all men are the same so these might not work for u. You know him better than anyone else so you’ll have to figure out a way, even if it means going silent for a while lol

Where is the empathy?

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