Do you feel the media and society romanticize toxic relationships?

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I was on AskReddit and one of the posts there was about things that people need to stop romanticizing. A good few of the answers were abusive and toxic relationships (I've included some of the responses that I feel best describe the thread's general opinion; The usernames are blocked out for their privacy).

1. Do you agree with these comments? Do you think people romanticize and normalize dysfunctional relationships? Why? Do you think this warps people's ideas of what makes a good relationship? Do you think the media portrays enough healthy relationships in books, TV shows, movies, etc.? 
2. What do you think should be done to promote healthier relationship behavior, if the media isn't going to do it? One user recommended classes for young people that would teach them what is acceptable behavior towards a partner and what isn't, red flags, and what makes a healthy and happy relationship (think of it like a sex and relationships ed, instead of a sex ed). Do you like that idea? Got anymore?

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I absolutely agree with these comments. It’s okay to have bad days in a relationship but bot okay when you start cussing at each other manipulating each other. I’m ride or die unless someone abuses me in anyway. I don’t fucking care if it’s my mother even, I’d drop you. Toxic relationships are not romantic.
I also agree with having some sort of relationship and sex ed class.

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Twilight. That’s all I’m saying.

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I'm not going to read all of that. The back and forth confuses me on reddit.
But yes, I absolutely believe that social media romanticizes abusive tendencies in relationships, men and women.
I see so many memes/posts that go around and people are tagged in it. 
Things like

Some, however, are just hilarious and not meant to be serious.

We romanticize people who don't want us. Like it's something fun.

Some memes are purely hilarious and not truly relatable. However, the sad truth is some men actually do get nasty when a woman tries to leave the house looking any type of decent and he can react in an abusive manor.
People who actively pry through their SO phone, trying to find something. I've seen women get mad when they don't. Like there's nothing there... Must have been deleted then 😬
There's tons of posts like this that fly around and normalize abusive behavior.
Being a controlling manipulative person is not something to proudly say "OMG soooo me" to. It's gross, abusive behavior that should be stopped.

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I didn’t read every comment, but yes I agree media glamorizes terrible relationships. The part about knowing people who constantly bash their partner is real too. I try not to surround myself with that when I can help it. Toxicity spreads like plague. 
What can be done about it? I’m not sure. Stories about people who are all lovely and get along aren’t usually particularly interesting, but maybe more character accountability and growth would be nice. 
I’d support a healthy relationships unit as an add on to sex ed, or another class where it might fit.

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Absofuckinglutely.

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Over the years, I've seen more and more posts calling out abusive/toxic behavior. I think a lot of the glorification comes from teens who don't fully understand the difference between love and control or love and abuse. When I was a teenager, I saw tons of glorification and promotion of unhealthy/abusive relationships. I even took part in it. As my friends and I got older, we started scrutinizing things and really understanding abuse and the signs of it. 
What a lot of people don't realize is, its not just social media normalizing abusive behavior. It also stems from coming from abusive households. Coming from a household full of abuse and toxic behavior normalizes abusive scenarios for children and adults. I didn't have the easiest life growing up. I grew up in an abusive household and for a long time I thought it was normal. I didn't talk about it because I was terrified and again, thought it was normal. There were almost zero opportunities to talk about it outside my family before CPS got involved because nobody asked and nobody saw the signs even though my grades dropped and I was self harming. Nobody taught me that it wasn't normal to grow up in a house with an alcoholic mother and the cops coming to the house all the time. Even my family told me "everyone's family is fucked up. This is everyone's normal." It just added to my suicidal and self harm tendencies. Society also tells people this behavior is okay because most of the time, people get a slap on the wrist at best. I cannot tell you how many horror stories I've heard about domestic violence, stalking, sexual assault, etc. Police won't/can't do anything until they're given a reason, which in most cases results in injury or death. Victims are shamed, blamed, and dragged through the mud in court. It takes forever just to get a court date. It takes serious measures just to get a restraining order. Police dismissing victims is also a problem.
What would help is giving kids the information they need to recognize normal, functional, healthy relationships versus toxic, abusive, harmful relationships. That goes for romantic, platonic, and familial relationships. Giving people a platform or an opportunity to talk about suffering from abuse and mental health issues would help. I'm also in full support of making psychology a mandatory class.

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I agree with these comments. I could never be in a relationship like that and I will definitely be explaining to my children that movies and TV aren’t real life and relationships should be based on respect. 
My partner and I don’t fight. I get cranky every now and then when I have PMS but I tell him ‘Babe, I’m sorry, I’m cranky.’ And he responds with love and empathy. 
When he’s going through stuff, I respond with live and empathy. 
We had a chat recently (pre-marriage questions) and we both agreed that there is no room in our relationship for abuse. None.

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YES TO ALL OF THIS !!!! I was in an extremely toxic relationship in high school and well into college but he and I romanticized the shit out of it. I literally thought that fighting for love was the and as plain old fighting and “passion” was screaming and crying at 4am and all this bull that I will never tolerate again

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So many books, shows, and movies make toxic relationships out to be these exciting, passionate adventures. Even songs do so as well, like both parts of "Love the Way You Lie" by Rihanna, Eminem, and Skylar Grey. And I'm not going to lie, some of it, portrayed as it is, does look exciting to me, in a danger-seeking, adrenaline junkie kind of way. But that's not what the relationships are actually like. They're terrible, draining, and damaging and should not be romanticized.

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100% and I wish I could gif this. Lol

Do you feel the media and society romanticize toxic relationships?

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