Vaccinations! Help! Update!
So I’m 33 weeks pregnant. My fiancé has always been against vaccinations, while I’ve always been for it. Our son will be here within the next month and he does not want him vaccinated! He has been calling me mean names, saying our baby will die if I get him his shots, etc. I’m trying to stand my ground with my decision which is to get my baby vaccinated. (It’s even gotten so bad that at my last appointment he argued with my OBGYN when it was time for me to get my TDAP vaccine, that I didn’t end up getting it. 😞) He also has made comments that he would forbid the docs at the hospital from giving my baby his shots and that he will make a scene. What should I do? Can he stop the doctors from giving my baby his shots at birth? Am I wrong to go against his wishes as a father? This is really taking a toll on our relationship, we have been arguing basically all day.
Update 1: Thank you all for your feedback & support. I’m going to secretly change my next appointment so that I can get my TDAP shot, without him knowing. Im still really nervous about how it’s going to work out with me getting my son’s shots though😩. He told me today if I went against his wishes and our baby gets his vaccinations at the hospital , that when we get home from the hospital, that I would have to “deal with him & that it wouldn’t be pretty”.
Update 2: He said will kill me if I ever left him & kept his son away from him. I know he is talking out of anger and won’t do that. (He has never laid a hand on me, & we had a pretty good relationship, up until now.) I can’t leave him, I live with him in his house, our baby’s nursery is set up here, & I’m currently not working & don’t have much money saved up. I just wish there was a way to convince him that vaccinating our baby is the RIGHT thing to do for him. He watches YouTube videos of these “anti-vaxxers” & he is seriously brainwashed.
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