Just need to vent

Thanks ladies. We still haven’t spoken to each other. Just about the check up we had today at the doctors.

I'm sorry , you need to tell him what he's doing is mean and putting you down. Your a team and he shouldn't say that stuff. Men sometimes dont think before they speak so talk to him and tell him he needs to consider your feelings

Since you said you just want to vent, all I’m going to add is... he’s being a jerk. Obviously this wasn’t your choice. He better change his attitude once the baby comes.

I’m going through a similar situation. Except my husband has always been the bread winner. We have all joint bank accounts so it’s not really who’s paying what bill, but we have always fought about money and the fact that I don’t make as much, especially since I graduated college a few years ago (with a bachelors degree, might I add). Every time it comes up He’s always thrown back at me how he barely passed high school and he makes twice as much as I do with a 4 year degree. I’ll admit before kids, I did feel bad that I didn’t contribute as much financially, especially to only be making half of what he does, so I always made sure to pick up the slack by keeping the house spotless, doing pretty much all the yard work, literally doing EVERYTHING around the house on top of working 40+hours a week doing physical labor. Even when our first son was born 2 years ago, I continued to do it all and here recently the same argument has come up and the fact that I’ve been doing everything on top of being the only one being responsible to drop off and pick up our son from daycare and take care of him and play with him in the evenings has really gotten to me. I have a hard time emotionally at this point in pregnancy, but the fact that he could try and argue that with me anymore really brought me down. So much so that I’ve considered leaving him. (We’ve had some other issues that play into that thought as well). But I told him that. I told him what was bothering me and that if I wasn’t going to get any help with either of the kids and at least a little tiny bit of help around the house that I just couldn’t do it anymore and I would leave because at this point in our lives neither of us deserves to have to do it all, and even though I don’t bring home as much financially, it’s still a substantial amount to our overall income that we can’t afford to live without on top of me doing everything else for the family and household. He told me that he agreed with all that and that he realized what he was doing to me and the stress he was putting me under and that he would change and try harder, so far he’s mostly upheld his promise (not as much as I would like) but he definitely seems to be working on it so we’ll see. But I would recommend just talking to him and telling him how you feel and how he’s making you feel and just reiterate that you had no choice and if he doesn’t get that then he’s not worth it and you don’t need that stress.

Hell, I feel the same way and I work full time. He pays mortgage and I pay everything else. Plus do ALL the house work. And i still feel like nothing is mine. Its all his, cause he makes/pays more. He refuses to have joint accounts. I pay for everything for our 3yo. We have a kid plus one on the way, a house, been together for 10 years. Still.no joint account. Everytime i mention it all hell breaks out. Because he wants his money.

That’s a terrible situation. you’re both contributing as much as you can.Sometimes relationships are not equal. Sometimes one partner has to shoulder more of the responsibilities, financially or otherwise. It’s partnership with no contract. Both parties need to be able to do work with each other and get through the tough times!I’ll be honest. I have caught myself doing this to my husband then I remember, he’s doing the best he can and I know that. Then I feel like a huge bag of shit for making him feel inadequate. You will get through it. Talk to him and hopefully he will realized what I realized, which is that life is just really hard right now, but you are getting through it together and you have a great partner in your corner! He’s lucky to have you ❤️