So, Ive been pretty down lately about conceiving and my mind has been taking me on all number of anxious and unhappy bunny trails. "It will never happen", "what if something is wrong with me?", "why is this taking so long?", "what if i never become a parent?". And i realized something. Freaking out and feeling depressed about getting pregnant is completely useless and gives me nothing. It doesnt help the process bc i dont feel motivated for sex, and it only serves to make me miserable emotionally. Its much easier said than done, trust me I know, but obsessive thinking can really rob you of your life and your happiness. No its not fair that a lot of friends and family members get pregnant right away, but the truth is that life, including the lives we are trying to create, is rarely going to be fair. Creating a human being is a huge thing and a lifelong commitment, and how prideful am I that I think it should be easy and happen immediately? Unfortunately for a lot of us its not so easy, but that doesnt make our journey or our desire for children any more or less valid than those who get pregnant with little effort. So i just want to say, try as much as you can, to distract, replace, reframe, reform, etc. those thoughts. They are the equivalent of a little devil sitting on your shoulder and they are stealing your joy. Life is full of challenges and you never know which challenge you are going to face down. If this happens to be yours, all you can do is your best, and confront it without fear. Wishing all here the best in their journey, and remember, enjoy the journey! You dont want to remember the time you conceived as stressful and painful and hopeless. Just my thoughts as of late