Would you be offended?

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So.. my fiancé is a VERY attractive person, literally perfect. 
I’ve dealt with many of his addictions.. (drugs, alcohol, recently found out he’s been driving around watching porn in the car while his kids and I wait at home wondering when he’s coming..)
Anyways.. I’m nothing special to look at a past relationship has left me damaged with broken teeth and granted I’m pregnant with my fifth child I weigh probably a good 40 pounds more than him. 
He’s gone as far as joining dating websites just to talk to girls because I wasn’t giving him “attention” but he never came to me and said anything was wrong he just did it and I found out a year later while pregnant with our daughter. He changed his email and said he hasn’t been on them since but how do I trust that? 
He’s recently been making comments about skinner people and how he’d fuck them, and how pretty they are knowing I’m so self conscious and I have ZERO confidence what so ever. 
Would you be offended by the comments he’s making? Am I in the wrong? pregnancy hormones..? Should I let it all go? Idk. I’m fucking so list right now. We’ve been together just over six years. I love him but I just don’t feel good enough at all anymore. Breaks my heart.

Accepted Answer

You might want to read what you wrote out loud to yourself. This guy is a trainwreck and you need to get the he'll away from him.

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Comments like that completely uncalled for. If he loved you he would NEVER say things like that. You have every right to be offended when someone is being emotionally abusive like that.

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There is a man out there, who will love every bone, inch of skin, and fiber of your being and treat you with respect. 
The person you are with? At best, that’s emotional abuse. You deserve better. Your kids deserve better. And the future partners  of your kids deserve better than the betrayal and abusive behavior he is teaching them. 
I’d be more than offended. I’d be gone. Fuck his “good looks”, sounds pretty ugly to me. 
I hope you find better and happiness for your and your babies.

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Your appearance and his appearance have nothing to do with his behaviour. The fact is he's an asshole who clearly has no respect for you or any other women, his children or his relationship. I'd be more than offended, I'd be kicking him out the door 🙄

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Get the actual fuck away from that man

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RUN!!!!!

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Jimmy on a cracker. There is nothing you’ve posted about this person ( I can’t even bring myself to call him a man) that is lovable or perfect. Would you advise your daughter or best friend to stay in a relationship like this? I don’t care if you’re 40000 pounds with a mouth full of snaggleteeth....drop this guy...he should be your ex fiancé.

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Would you still be with him if you were not pregnant and had children? This man is toxic for you. He has no love for himself and the people around him. I would look into getting help. You deserve better hun. Don’t let others chain you down!

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Sheesh. I feel so bad for you. He should be uplifting and encouraging about your appearance. He seems to have a sex addiction/ problem. You don’t deserve to be treated like this. It’s a good thing he is your fiancé.....why would you want to continue a relationship with someone who doesn’t bring out the best in you and makes you feel worse about yourself? And he can’t be that attractive...his personality makes him ugly by what you said.

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I don’t care if you boyfriend is Zach Efron 😍, don’t let him treat you like that. I wouldn’t put up with that at all, he’s not respecting you and now you are questions your self confidence. Weight does not make a person beautiful, your a mother and I’m sure you are being hard on yourself. Don’t settle for less than you deserve, and if you a good person you deserve some one who loves and admired you, not someone commenting on you weight. Maybe try therapy together or split up and co parent. You deserve better.

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