My husband and I were at an event last night. We had made arrangements for a designated driving company to pick us up at the end of the event and drive us home in our vehicle. There were lots of his childhood friends at the event who were staying in a nearby hotel after the event. We didn’t get a room as the driving company was cheaper for us than a room. We also have a toddler at home who was being babysat by my mom, who lives in our suite. The plan was to be home by 12:30am or so. At the end of the night, husband and I were invited to stay in another couples room as they had 2 beds. I told husband, in private, that I wanted to go home and didn’t want to stay in the hotel. About 20min later, I walk out and find husband on the phone with the company switching his booking over from our vehicle to some friends vehicle who have more room to take more people back to the hotel. He gets off the phone and tells me there is only one driver available and the booking is switched over. I told him I had to go text my mom. So I walked away from him and his group of friends. I got to our vehicle to text my mom what happened, that i would now be later as I’d have to go to the hotel and then get a taxi back home. I’m pissed. I texted my husband that I wasn’t happy about his plan and that I’d make my own arrangements to come home. He wakes where I was (to come talk). In the mean time, my mom hasn’t answered my message and I asked my sister to come get me. So she is now on her way for the 45 min drive. Husband comes over and we fight about it... I told him he ignored our private convo that I didn’t want to stay and wanted to get home to our (sick) toddler. He’s all mad I made arrangements without telling him - but I did tell him- flat out, that i wanted to go home. He is the one who changed the plan and I made a reactive plan to get home. He ultimately ended up coming home with me when my sister got there, but today, he won’t have a conversation. He said the fight is all my fault because I changed the plan. He actually doesn’t see that he changed the plan, intentionally going against the plan we had made before going and then again when I told him I wasn’t staying at the hotel and wanted to go home? Wtf? I’m so sick of fighting. He’s becoming increasingly selfish and I don’t know how much more I can take. He wasn’t always like this 😢