I think this is just me getting it off my chest.

My husband and I are into bdsm, and for the past couple years he’s been submissive for the most part.

Recently, he’s had two female friends talking to him and being more sexually open, discussing issues they have, talking about their experiences and their husbands. Since they act more on the submissive side, he says talking to them is helping him feel more dominant and thinks it will help him go back to that in our relationship. We’re very open minded people and we live in the Bible Belt where sexual knowledge and pleasure will “send you to hell”, so we both have given advice/counsel to people in the past that otherwise, wouldn’t know even the basics of normal sexuality, let alone kinky things. These friends he is talking to seem to have sad situations at home. One even said her husband was cheating on her with his ex while she was pregnant with his child.

I trust my husband and I know he would never fuck someone unless we both wanted it as an experience (which we have discussed and are not open to at this time). They’ve both been talking to him and it isn’t all the time, just occasionally. He lets me read the texts anytime I want, and even one of the women asked if him just talking to her would cause him problems with his wife, but he had explained to her that we have a very mature and open minded relationship where we trust each other. I think my biggest issues with it are that they’re married and I’m afraid they have a thing for my husband. It also kind of hurts that they flirt with him. One was talking to him about her back hurting and needing a massage, but he starting giving medical advice since he’s in the field. I told him she wants him, but he said she’s just needing a friend. I also don’t trust that down the road, one of them won’t tell someone, “A while back, that guy was trying to get me to cheat on my husband and talking to me all the time, trying to be my friend while he had a wife.” This is in my head I guess, and I do trust my husband. I really do know he wouldn’t do anything without me. I just wish the friends wouldn’t act like he’s available when he’s told them he isn’t. He says that we have nothing to worry about, that he’s just giving advice and being a friend, and that it really is helping him feel more dominant. I’ve really been missing being the submissive one in the relationship so he knows how much I want it back. I guess I’ll leave it alone for now, unless they start sending boobs or pussy pics lol 😜