I had a miscarriage at the beginning of the year. Right after I found out so I wasn’t very far along. And I was hysterical when I found out what was happening. I feel stupid though whenever I get upset and I don’t talk about it really because I feel like I’m just overreacting because a family member refers to a baby that early on as “a clump of cells” and that they have no heartbeat and no brain.

The discussion of a baby that early on where that was said was on a whole other topic. She was trying to defend women who get abortions because she’s pro women should be able to do whatever they want with their bodies. I have no problem with that. I just wish she would’ve built her argument in a nicer way. She shares things all the time about women who have miscarriages & what not. And she is a mother to a few months old baby. But referring to a baby that early on as just a clump of cells hurts because like I said I feel ridiculous getting upset over losing a pregnancy that just started. And I feel like I’m not a mother and never was. I guess I feel isolated in a way.

Am I just overreacting? Is it wrong to be upset about losing my baby so early on? Do you still feel as if you’re a mother if you’ve gone through an early miscarriage?