In short; this has been one of the toughest yet most rewarding time of our lives. My husband just graduated college with honors with a degree in Conversation Law Enforcement. For the past year, he had been taking time off work to commute 4 hours to Albany, pursuing a spot in their Park Police Academy. Everything looked great for us! He passed the physical exam, athletic test, civil service exam, and back ground checks. Even his back ground check guy was hinting to us the high possibility of hubs getting in.

Then blow after blow began.

The weekend of his graduation, my grandpa was admitted to the hospital for pneumonia, the day after graduation, my grandma was admitted, both are fine now... just scared and wtf...

The next day, hubs got an e-mail. A rejection letter from the academy.

He submitted in an appeal for them to reconsider, now we wait. But after he saw the email... he’s depressed. And I don’t mean, “that sucks... gee wiz”

I mean, he’s unmotivated, taking things out on me, snapping at me over the need for laundry detergent, blaming me for his lack of desire to work out.

I get it, he’s upset, I mean he took days off of work for this. More days than the company liked. He missed classes for this. He drove 4 hours to and from Albany on little to no sleep because of work and school for THIS! And boom, refused...

I just... want to remotivate him. I want my husband back. He’s angry, I can see it, even though he’s trying to hide it. He denies that he’s upset. He denies that he’s taking it out on me, even though it’s obvious. I’m not upset with him. I’m hurting for him. We were so happy with what we had accomplished. Everything looked great. Then PLOT TWIST.

How can I show him more support?

Because he’s making me feel like I’m not doing enough.