I have explosive anger issues. And I’m working on maintaining control in certain situations, but obviously it’s normal to be angry to a degree in certain situations, so I’m trying to gauge how much I’m overreacting.

What would your reaction be to this:

Today I caulked a crack around a window because ants were coming in. They’ve been coming in for a few months and my husband never mentioned doing anything about it. I put our little baits but they work for 2-3 days and they’re back. When he came home today, he saw the caulk gun in the garage and asked what I had been doing with it. I told him and asked why he asked, and he said “Just wondering because most of the time you can’t do stuff right” so I told him to fuck off, that doing it wrong is better than just not doing it at all, and that he should’ve done it when the ant problem started if he didn’t want me messing with it.

I didn’t blow up, as I usually would have done, but now I’m being a sarcastic bitch about everything. (I made myself dinner and told him he can cook for himself since I can’t do anything right.) I’m trying to focus on the “correct” response to things so I can control myself, but I’ve been like this my whole life (and both my parents were like this too) so I don’t know what “normal” is.

So two questions: how would YOU react to this, what range of responses would you consider normal?