Would it be selfish of me to not go to my best friends gender reveal? I feel like she’s just been MIA while I’ve been dealing with so much the past few months but now that she has all this stuffed planned and going on she wants my help with it all and wants me fully available. I just don’t feel like taking to drive to where she’s having it (2-3 hours away) and sit around with a bunch of people I don’t know when I could be working on other things that are important for me to get into a better place. I’d also like to add I already know the gender

Edit to add: I do understand she’s going through a lot as I been there less than a year ago. But I’m just finding it hurtful she couldn’t make time to help me or be there for me but now that I’m in a place I can make things better for not only myself or my family she’s all but demanding I push those things aside to be there for her and help her with what she needs.