Just emotionally drained

Hi mamas, so this is my first pregnancy and my family is really starting to bother me. Everyone acts as if this baby is theirs or that they care more about it then everyone else. But because of that everyone keeps thinking they get a say on if we find out the gender and when my baby shower should be and etc. Now some people wont even talk to me because I pissed them off by saying I am not changing the date of the shower because it was agreed upon a month ago. I keep trying to accommodate everyone but it is making me so emotionally exhausted and I can't take it anymore.