My heart is breaking, my husband might be cheating

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For months he’s been a little different, going to the gym more, getting facial products, I thought he just wanted to refresh his looks. Lately he has been more secretive so I decided to look into what he’s doing. Today I looked up on friend my friends where he is after gym class and he was about 15 minutes from the gym. When I asked about what was taking him so long to get home he lied and told he me some random stuff that I know is not true. This prompted me to look at his personal credit card. I’m normally not like this. We have been together for 10 years and this is the first time I looked at his personal cc statement. I saw he purchased a couples cooking class. Given we have a 2 month old and a 2.5 year old and he hasn’t told me about it, I don’t think he is planning on taking me, I’m not even sure if it happened already. I feel like my world is falling apart. I haven’t confronted him because I don’t know what I’ll do if it is true. Lately he also been trying to rekindle our relationship. I feel like with baby I haven’t really focused on him, just the kids. This week he asked to book a spontaneous trip to Florida next week while I’m still on maternity leave and he has vacation. What do I do?

Update: I found out he is taking this girl I had suspected to the cooking class. He paid for his ticket and hers. The class is not until July.

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Sh

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Go be with your husband... sounds like he is feeling undesired n looking for your attention. Believe in him and what you built before you confront him based on insecurities and further destroy your relationship

ma

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The first few months are always the hardest when a baby arrives!! It’s a no brainer, focus most of the time will be on the kids. That’s no excuse for him to be doing things with someone else. 🤷🏽‍♀️ I have a 2 month and an almost 3 year old, who have the majority of my attention most days and my fiancée knows it and is understanding of it. But we still squeeze time for one another. Whether it’s a walk outside or a road trip out rod town. He always includes us or we include him. 🤷🏽‍♀️ Talk to him, his actions aren’t right. As much as “he” needs attention, mama needs attention also! Especially when caring for little ones!

Sa

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Damn it seems he’s searching for some attention. You need to address it ASAP!!!& you don’t have to defend the snoop, you look into whatever the fck you want, you’re his wife! My husband & I have joint everything & an open phone policy. We have permission to look whenever we feel like it. It has nothing to do with insecurity or not trusting etc.He’s acting weird, first thing you do is look into it,I’d say go on the trip. Have him help with the kids. Try to squeeze in as much time alone with him as you can, AFTER you confront him.

Mr

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Sounds to me hes trying to "fancy" this girl hes taking to cooking classes. Are you okay with him taking this girl to cooking classes? Do you think he might be seeing her?

Mr

Mrs.Holland • May 24, 2019
Sounds to me like an affair. How did you find out hes taking another girl? Did he admit it?