So my DH and I have been married for 17 years and I had multiple miscarriages in the beginning with nothing in the last 10 years despite extensive fertility treatments. Last year we decided to just forget about it and became foster parents. We have had 2 little girls, one that was reunited with her family before the holidays, and the other we are looking to adopt. Through all of this, I have only been tracking my periods because of my PCOS and not for fertility reasons. Imagine my surprise when I started to feel off and my boobs blew up and started to hurt for weeks instead of days. So I it the bullet and took a test fully expecting it to come back not pregnant. Well, as Maury would say “ that was a lie” BFP. Darker than I have ever seen before. OMG!!! However, sadly it was not meant to be. 3days later I miscarried the baby. My dr and I can’t figure out why now when nothing happened with fertility medication. But, I will say that despite the loss, I will try again, maybe not as earnestly as before to avoid the stress, and I definitely have weight to lose to help it along, but if ai can get pregnant as a surprise, then I should be able to get pregnant on purpose too. Miracles happen every day. I just had one. After 17 years and I’m almost 40, it can and it does happen. We just have to be patient and willing to take care of ourselves first.