2nd baby news did not amuse husband

When I gave the news with iur 1st one, it was my birthday, we were out at a restaurant, after i had my bday cake and blow the candle i said i also have a gift but we share that one. I gave the test result with a cute little card in an envelope. He opened it. He looked suprised like looked at me saying is it real. Smiled. And did not even get up hugged me or say anything else. I realised he was a lil teary but I'm not sure. We went home and that was it. I think he said sth like, "i wasn't taking vitamins or take care of my nutrition lately." meaning he wasn't sure if the embryo will be healthy enough. He didn't mention anything else at all. I was the one who always brought up the baby stuff to talk about, asked questions etc but he was like i don't know. I don't want to say anything until we are sure it's a healthy baby etc.

So i was already feeling down but i just told myself that he is afraid to experience something bad about it. (we never lost a baby or anything like tht). I don't want to go further about what happened after she's born, in general he chose to stay behind, was silent, didn't share his feelings with me. After the bad idea of having my mom with us through the baby's first 2 months things got worse he became a rude person even once he got the baby from my arms in a very harsh way, by force saying I don't do good on her because i was stressed(because of him)!.once i asked him if i rushed to give him the babu news, if i would better plan to give the news on a different way, he told me then, yes maybe my first reaction would have been different" i really hated myself being such impatient then, thinking it was my mistake and it was normal for him not to hug me or showed her feelings when he first heard.. SO.. NOW. I am pregnant. My daughter is only 15 months. This time i waited 3 days before giving the news. Got my daugther wear a really cute dress, have her hand an envelope to give to daddy. I wrote inside" I am becoming a sister". He opened it. Read. And looked at me and say really? And i said yes. And he smiled. And he did not get his ass up and comd next tome to give a hug or do anything. Something. You know. Then he looked at daugther and said like, when has she grown so much. - - - - - im like... Oh yeah again. He did came and sit next to me after 10 mins and wrapped his shoulder around for a half hug. Thats all. The whole evening he behaved like he haven't heard anything new, had dinner read articles news on his phone etc. I did everything to get some words, also tried to find about what wrong I have done this time. At the end after few days, He again said similar things like, but the way you have the news was about our daughter being a sister. Not about you are pregnant. I mean. I fucking mean, WHATTTTT?? it means the same thing idiot. I feel so crazy. So down so sad. Its been about 7 weeks now, and not a word unless i say something. Help my feelings. I really feel so confused. The reason i m confused is, I know he always wanted kids, even before me and I made this possible for him. Don't you think I should have received more sympathy or love or care l?

I am not an attention freak but I feel so lonely. After all i had so many concerns although i want this baby, and the first night he knew about it, when i told him that i am a little bit worried and feel guilty because our daughter is still small, afraif of stealing her parents love from her etc. - - - he answered, well you can get a pill and end it.

Having a support, a little emphaty, is it too hard?