How do can I get my husband to loosen up and want to be more kinky? Lol

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He’s as vanilla as it gets. He thinks anything more is too weird and he gets uncomfortable. There’s nothing wrong with vanilla but I wanna add some cherries and and sprinkles if you know what I mean 😉
On the other hand I don’t want to make him feel like our sex life now isnt good enough.

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Start with something easy. Like lingere and handcuffs.

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I’m a big believer that if a man is horny enough he’ll do anything 😂 I wouldn’t go straight from 0 to 60 at once but work up to it

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Girl if you figure out how to spice him up let me know. I just had this same conversation with my man and he said he isn't a "sexual deviant" and he never will be. He even went so far as to suggest I go find someone else to sleep with a couple times a week to get my kinks out which I do NOT want 🙄 he seems to have convinced himself that I'm into some seriously kinky shit (like hardcore BDSM or poop play or something??) when in reality all I want is to add a vibrator or handcuffs to our normal sex. He won't listen 😩 
When I suggested the vibrator he said "nothing would turn me off more" like, uuuuggghhh. 
When I first moved in I found multiple pieces of lingerie from his exes, but when I tried to surprise him with some he was not at all excited.

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He probably is self conscious and afraid to be vulnerable or look foolish so he sticks to “what he knows”. Maybe suggest a game of acting out what the porn stars are doing. That was it’s “scripted” and he won’t feel silly “coming up with a bad idea”. You just put on a porn and act it out. I recommend getting a soft core one at first and keeping the mood light.

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Communication is key, bring him to a sex shop show him so of what you’re thinking.

How do can I get my husband to loosen up and want to be more kinky? Lol

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