I’ve been married to my husband for 8 years, together 12. Were both 31. We have 2 kids. 5 year old and 4 month old. I am a stay at home mom, and he works full time.

When we had our 5 year old I was still working full time but we decided it would benefit our son if I stayed home. Now we have a 4 month old daughter (surprise baby lol) but he insists my “job” is not a job. Because well I don’t get paid to do what I do, even though you fellow moms know, our jobs are 24/7!!

I think at this stage in my life, I don’t want to look back when I’m 90 and regret anything ...

He never wants to spend time with the kids and I, he doesn’t want to help with the kids and he thinks because he works, that justifies enough. Which , isn’t enough. I’m not asking him to wake up and nurse our baby at 2-3-4am, or take our son to school. However, it is important to me that he show up to parties after work and spend time with family , to want to go to the park, to help teach our son to ride his bike and to play catch. It’s like we’re a burden.

He is to busy playing computer games and watching tv. I understand he works hard and deserves the break but what about us ? Are we not good enough for him to want to spend time with us.

He will literally leave work early or call off just to play computer games or to go to our local computer gaming cafe with his friends (who aren’t married and don’t have kids)

There are times the kids go days without seeing him because of his work schedule , and he just isn’t interested in being with us. I shouldn’t have to BEG my husband every day to spend time with us.

At night after I get the kids to bed , I ask him to hangout with me, watch a movie or just talk. He doesn’t ...

I can’t tell you the last time he took me on a date. Mother’s Day, he forgot . Didn’t even wish me a happy Mother’s Day.

I just am so lonely , and feel like I’m married to a god damn teenager. I did not make these children by myself, and working is NO EXCUSE not to parent. Whether we both work full time or no one works full time, you still have to parent. I just don’t know what to do. I’ve literally had it. He didn’t come to barely any of my baby appointments , shows up to nothing of my families, I do everything myself, and take the kids every where myself . It is not fair to them.

I’m pretty sure at this point our marriage won’t come back. We do not even speak when he’s here because he’s to focused. I’m just over it. I needed to vent. I’m sorry.