Am i wrong ?

Question

I'm 23 weeks pregnant I'm only 17 years old soon to be 18 I'm a single mom the father of my child has been so abusive my whole pregnancy it hasn't been physical but mentally he constantly tells me he hopes that I die and that my baby dies and what he'll do to me so I finally had enough and left at 19 weeks he was also cheating on me and the girl he cheated with is also pregnant now I've told him that I do not trust him to be around my child when he arrives he says that I'm jealous and he'll take me to court and take my baby etc. But I honestly do not trust him it has nothing to do with jealousy I'm just afraid he'll hurt my child I have multiple messages of him telling me he'll kill me and telling me that he hopes me and my son die is that enough to prove in court that he shouldn't be around me or my son ?

Answer

Keep everything and stay low key after the baby is born. If he takes h to court then you have everything u need. He may not want to be bothered with the baby so ignore his messages, keep them and don’t engage in any back and forth with him. You can also screen shots the texts and email them to yourself to be printed out. My sons “father” took me to court for joint custody ( he had gotten out of prison) and only got supervised visits because I kept everything. He had a lawyer but I didn’t and I still won. He didn’t bother to go to the visits anyway. He’s now a level 3 sex offender and did less than a year for molesting a 6 year old. Just got out. My boys are 13. I can’t get his visits taken away as I can’t prove him seeing my twins would cause them harm. Logically it will, emotionally it will, but because I can’t prove it in court his visits weren’t taken away. The only saving grace is that with his sex offender status, he can’t go to the visiting center. Good luck!! Keep everything!!

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Firstly, I’m sorry to hear that’s how it has been so far during your pregnancy and I’m glad you got out. Trying to minimize stress will be the best for you and your future child.  If he’s 18 and impregnated two girls around the same time, there’s no guarantee that by the time you give birth he’ll even be paying attention to you. My recommendation would be to cut off communication with him (don’t fuel him whatsoever). Try to move somewhere he won’t know where to find you. If you have mutual friends, know who you can trust with where you live, etc. If he continues to harass you as you’ve indicated, you have grounds for a restraining order which can help both before and after giving birth. Additionally, every state government has a method for assisting women in abusive relationships— especially if you’re pregnant and attempting to support the child on your own. It’s the same building where they issue food stamps and medical assistance. If he’s still harassing you once you turn 18, go there for permanent solutions and assistance. Go to the police if you need an urgent solution. Your safety is the first priority. Good luck

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