Stepdaughter said she does not like me.

A lot of you will recognize me as you read my post a little more. I’ve previously have posted about how my 18 year old stepdaughter treats me like shit, ever since I met her. Her and i have never got along. I have tried everything In the book, I’ve asked everyone I know for advice and have taken the advice given just to get rejected by this girl who is now 18 years old, she’s an adult. I have lost all patience and shut down, when she gives me attitude I just completely shut down because I feel as if I have to walk on egg shells around my house. I feel miserable when she’s here. Ever since she left my husband and i have been even getting along better. Her attitude and vibe rubs off on all of us including her siblings. She also used to treat my 2 year old like crap.

Well, she came back from her moms this past weekend after her dad had kicked her out for being so disrespectful to us all. Yet, she was treating everyone nice except me, like I had done something. I didn’t say anything because I could tell my husband was excited to have her back. Second, it was my birthday and third she had just came back.

Well she left and took all her shit. But today her mother called my husband telling him his daughter had said she’s moving into our house. My husband had told her that she never spoke to him about this and if she wanted to move back in with us, they needed to talk. So he calls her, and my husband told her if she plans to come back, she needs to respect ME, him and everyone included.

And as we were talking, my husband hits me with “do you like my daughter?”

And of course I do like her but I don’t like her when she’s being disrespectful to me. He said he understood and wasn’t mad at me. But at the end he turned up mad because he said how can I act like this with an 18 year old who’s head is obviously fucked up. Then he tells me that he knows I’ve done nothing to his daughter for her not to like me but when he starts to get irritated he says how I don’t do anything for her. I told him I’ve done EVERYTHING for that kid and all I get is treated like shit. If him and I argue, I’m the one who gets treated like shit. I went off on me and said he didn’t know what to do about neither of us liking each other and that i should be the adult. But how can I be cool about this 18 year old constantly stealing my stuff, being rude, being disrespectful, talking shit about me whispering crap about me to her siblings, goes to her moms and says I’m the worst person ever but in reality I AM THE NICEST PERSON. She bumps into me on purpose, on top of all that she used to treat my 2 year old LIKE COMPLETE SHIT!!!! I am so done with this girl. My husband says I throw off this bad vibe towards her but he knows that I don’t treat her or do anything wrong to her. I said how the fuck am I suppose to act when your kid comes to OUR house and wants to act like she runs this. Yes, this is her house as well but I AM THE ADULT. She’s even said before how I do absolutely nothing about her behavior which is why she is able to Do what she wants to me because I’m scared. Now she told her dad she does not like me so how is she suppose to live with me? I also told my husband that I feel uncomfortable and miserable when she’s around. And he does not understand what this feels like because he doesn’t have stepkids. Well, this just turned into a whole big argument and me crying and telling him I cannot do this anymore. Cause I seriously have lost all my patience. Also, when him and I argue he’ll immediately go to her room and stay there for hours just to avoid me. He’s even told her that I am jealous of other women. I came to find this out by his own daughter telling me. Obviously he denied it. My husband has also made me look wrong in front of the kids by calling me names when we get into heated arguments. He’s been very disrespectful to me numerous times in front of them. And If i say I don’t want to argue in front of them, he’ll continue until I blow up and then I look like the bad person. Which is why this girl hates me.

Am I wrong here?