Sorry for the long post put I really need some advise...

Did anyone else’s sex drive completely disappear when they got pregnant?? We had sex the day we found out I was pregnant and it hurt so bad that I cried. Now that I’m in my second trimester I just feel gross and fat. My husband had been amazing and hasn’t pressured me to do anything but always makes sure that he tells me how beautiful I am. He loves my belly and talked to our son all the time. Maybe I’m just in my head to much but I know it isn’t fair to my husband to not be intimate but I’m so scared that it is going to hurt again and the last time it was almost unbearable. Any advice ladies??