(This post isn’t asking for advice tbh, it’s more getting this off my chest. I tried to explain a little bit of this to my mom and it was just too difficult.)

I have a online friend that’s transitioning to become a trans woman but still working and living as a man. Pronouns are so confusing to me because one moment she’s a she and the next he wants to be referred to as a man. She/him also has a very strong obsession with pregnancy, completely her words not like btw. At the moment they prefer male proverbs so I’ll just go with that.

This honestly makes me feel so uncomfortable. He’s a nice person but there’s certain things he says that disturbs me. The way he refers to men as things he hates so much and how useless and shitty they are but fetishizes straight men and wanting to be used by one. As well as moments when he describes how he feels seeing pregnant women and the rage he feels that he cannot be impregnated, give birth or breast feed. He shows no interest in actual babies just the process of housing one. He once described how intensely jealous he is of women he went to school with now having children, to the point I feared for anyone close to him that may be pregnant just by the cold and envious tone he had while he talks about women doing things he cannot. We had a falling out because he constantly wished that he would take any conditions like endometriosis. When I expressed the insensitivity to his statement and just how debilitating the condition is he brushed it off as something he could face because it took him one step closer of being a real woman. Again, his words not mine.

All conversations seem surround this obsession to the point I’m being sent unsolicited pictures of him wearing maternity clothes, fakes boobs and a fake pregnancy belly that he has multiple of in different sizes depending on the term. He wants my opinions and thoughts all the while guilting me about not wanting to develop a relationship with him where I essentially will be the man in the relationship. I can’t express my discomfort without being guilted and him not responding for awhile just to be sent more maternity pictures a few days later starting the process of all over again.

He recently told me he is seeing a therapist but claims the therapist isnt doing shit and he’s even more confused. I honestly believe this friendship cannot last.