UPDATED TRIGGER WARNING myparents say I’m a bad parent and sick and morbid to let my daughter talk to and at times play with my sons ashes

Ok so we sadly lost our baby boy at 21 weeks and 4 days. We have a 5 almost 6 year old daughter she’s our only child and she’s begged for a sibling every birthday every holiday for as long as she’s been able to talk. We had 4 losses all around 5-6 weeks before concerning our son and so when we got that far into a pregnancy she was finally getting excited and quit worrying about loosing him. So needless to say she’s been a train wreck since we lost our sweet boy. Like I said he was very premature so we didn’t have her come meet him so she never got to see him in person and that reallllllly upset her so when we got his urn back I encouraged her to talk to her baby brother if she wanted to. She’s not only talked to him she’s cuddled his urn and put him in his baby swing we had for him letting him swing as she sings to him and talks to him. We didn’t see any harm in it and actually thought it was sweet but then my parents came over and she went and got baby brother as she says and brought the urn to them and said meet my baby brother. They went off and took the urn from her. They came to me and was like mandy brook had this you should put it higher so she can’t touch it. I told them I’ve been letting her talk to it and bond with her brother they went off said I was sick and morbid. Are they right

Our sweet baby boy

Mommy and daddy gazing at how perfect he is

UPDATE:

Hey everyone I just wanted to take a second to update this and let y’all know how everything went and how we handle this. First off I want to thank everyone with all the kind encouraging words, the people that have had losses and commented comment and the people that I’ve never had a loss before but took time to look at it from my point of you and put themselves in my shoes before saying something ugly, and even the people that commented not so nice things you’re all entitled to your opinion and I understand all the opinions on here and respect them. We ended up following the advice of one of the commenters on here and having a teddy bear made for our daughter at build a bear. Inside of her teddy bear there’s a picture of one of my sons ultrasounds, a recording of his heartbeat, And this thing that allows her to feel the heartbeat. We then took her son to earn and place it into an all glass cabinet that sits in our living room for everyone to see with all his stuff in there. This is been a very long and hard road and I know will never truly get past it but you do learn to live with it. I will never forget my son and I will always make sure that he’s included in our lives.

Also WERE EXPECTING AGAIN! I’m excited to say I’m currently 5 weeks and 2 days with our rainbow baby and praying we get to keep this one if it’s gods will.

Below are some pictures of his cabinet and the things inside of it and the teddy bear that was made for her daughter