It's ok if noone reads this. I just need to get it off my chest. Saturday was my 21st birthday so i invited my closest friends over for a bbq. I couldn't drink obviously so i just wanted to spend time with them and wasn't gonna stop them from doing so, we even provided some. I send out a text to everyone the day before as a reminder as i had made these plans 2 weeks prior and get a text from one of them saying they can't make it because they have to work unexpectedly. That's fine, i completely understand, and let them know that it's ok we'll just hang out some other time since we haven't for a while. The time for the bbq comes and one person shows up. An hour after one texts me "sorry can't make it." And i find out it's because he decided to go to the movies instead...wtf. (this same friend promised to setup a baby shower for me and then decided not to cause he just didn't feel like it even though i was funding it so i ended up wasting my time and money for a broken promise) I don't even respond as I'm too emotional and might say something that I'll later regret. After 2 hours of us 3(my SO, my friend, and me) calling and texting my best friend they still don't respond. He had decided to get drunk and stream his video game instead. So my 21st birthday was spent on my swollen feet all day wasting time making too much food that noone showed up to eat... i feel like shit rn and just wanna cry.