Help dating someone with ED.

ED as in, erectile dysfunction.

I’m noticing his impotence has severely affected the lack thereof of any sort of intimacy. We barely if ever actually try to have to have sex. If we do, it’s so quick and he’s so concerned with going soft the sex feels more focused around him. He’s able to achieve a hard on but any moment it can go away or with most positions. It’s a challenge and bj work but then I get no action. Once he’s done it’s done. I’ve talked to him about intimacy but he doesn’t get it or he does the wrong things. I have to correct him so much I end up getting over it.

I am an avid masturbator with myself and I’ve tried showing him what I want and how but without actually having penetration.... he is terrible at it after many times of trying.

I feel so alone about the topic. This is the first time I’m dealing with someone with impotence. I know it’s affecting him because I’m not interested in having sex with him anymore. I love the guy and he loves me but I just really need to hear from anyone who is dealing with something similar. I don’t want medical advice. Just motivation or cheering up. Thank you.