My s.o's mother and I don't get along. Mostly due to the fact she's been an absolute bitch to me the entire time we've been together. She's never accepted me as her son's partner and is just very cold towards me. I gave up years ago trying with this woman and accepted the fact she was the problem, not me. When I was giving birth to my first son she was a nightmare. I was having contractions and complications and needed my partner's full attention since no one else was there but him and she called numerous times demanding he tell her what hospital and room I was in because she HAD to he there. First of all, no, she didn't have to be in there with me. The auducity to think she was actually going to be in the delivery room after treating me like shit for years. Second, she had her boyfriend call and threaten us if we didn't give the room number or hospital out he would call each hospital to find out. He has absolutely NOTHING to do with my child. These people are extremely ghetto and display it very well. The only woman who needed to be right next to me was MY mother. His mother is very MY way or I'll throw a tantrum. I couldn't care less. They finally stopped the calls after I shouted loud enough for them to hear over the phone, inbetween a contraction, exact words were "stop fucking calling or I'll make sure none of them will get through the doors to enter my room to see my baby". That definitely did the trick. His mother showed up the next day to visit my baby and I bit my tongue the entire time as she stood there and criticized his name choice, as she proceeded to call him by my husband's name istead of the name I chose for him. A week after being back home with our new baby, she started the phone calls yet again. This time bugging to keep our son for two nights alone. He was a week old. Hell woukd have to freeze over before that happens. She called about five times demanding she have him. I said no politely at first but after the fifth phone call I was irritated with her and yelled out "no! Fuck! I said no!" The calls stopped. I honestly can't believe it takes me getting to that point for this woman to back off. It's absolutely ridiculous. Needless to say this woman has not been a big part of our son's life. She only sees him occasionally and that's how I want to keep it. I'm currently 8 months pregnant with my second son and surprise surprise she's already calling to find out the date of my surgery (I'm having a second c-section) so that she can be there front and center. My s.o and I have discussed and decided we aren't going to tell her this time around and she's going to have to wait until the next day after the baby is born to see him. This just avoids any drama. She will not be visiting him at our home either, as she doesn't know where we live, if she did she'd be a leech and be around all day everyday and bring around her loser alcoholic boyfriend even asking her not to. It's just easier this way. She will alsi be asked to leave after awhile visting as last time she stuck around for nearly four hours and finally got kicked out when my family showed up, she even had an issue with that, as if she's the only family member my son has. I have spoken to my mother as well advising her not to message his sister letting them know our son has arrived. We will take care of it ourselves. My mother likes to jump way ahead of us when it comes to announcing and I've talked to her about that too. I'm hoping this time is alot smoother now that we're keeping it more secretive and I hope there's as little drama afterwards.