So about two years ago I sold 80% of my stuff and packed up the rest in a suitcase and carry on. I flew out across the country to meet my now husband and never looked back. We've since traveled the world but had to slow down for a bit because we found out I was pregnant. (Currently 20w). Since leaving, my anxiety has all but disappeared and I'm 100x healthier than I ever have been.

I have not seen my family since I left.

My mother has become increasingly clingy as I've gotten older. She was furious I left in the first place and not happy that we've decided to live a 6hr flight away. When I told her I was pregnant, she assumed she'd be able to be here for the birth and first weeks of my baby's life. I told her no, that we wanted the birth to be just us and the midwife. On top of that, we wanted 6 weeks to ourselves, no houseguests. So of course, she isn't happy. Her husband has bombarded me AND my husband with emails. He is trying to get me to change me mind because he wants her to be happy. He has straight up said knows what's best for me and my child and that I will regret my decision. Implying I have no idea what I'm doing and I'm being a bitch. It has caused my anxiety to flare up again and some days it's hard to get things done because I can't focus.

I used to be fairly accommodating and allowed myself to be walked on a bit. Since becoming pregnant I have already become very protective of my baby. I only want what is best for her and our little family. After that exchange of emails I don't think I could allow my mother's husband anywhere near my kids. I do not want for them to bossed around this way or to think it's okay.

I honestly want nothing to do with him but he continues to send emails while I haven't heard anything from my mother. I feel this may affect my already tense relationship with her when I would like to have a positive one. Just without him involved.

Am I being over dramatic by not wanting him around my kids/family? Should I just give in/let it slide?

My Dad and his wife are being really supportive. They are happy to wait to visit and haven't tried to persuade me of anything. So I know it's not impossible.

EDIT:

Anytime they came to visit they would have to be staying with me, likely for a week or more. I'm very introverted and private so this is already a huge undertaking for me. It's a six hour flight from my home city to my new one, it's also another country. 1hr visits are impossible.

I have not "cut her out". I have responded to all the messages she has sent but I haven't heard from her in over a month, only her husband. I don't want anyone at the birth or visiting in the first six weeks. Period. We have no friends in our new city so it's not hard to do.

I have told them how I feel and how this behaviour is pushing me away and making things worse. To no avail. I just hear the same we know what's best for you and you're wrong, over and over and over. When he went so far as to email my husband to enlist him in trying to persuade me that was my last straw so to speak.

EDIT2:

He has been in my life for over 20 years. They've almost been divorced several times always because he has mishandled finances or not pulled his weight (my Mum has always been the breadwinner as well as running the house). I honestly don't know why she married him but that's not for me to decide. We have never really gotten along. He has a habit of blaming me for my mother's emotions. Including blaming me for health issues that I had no control over because it upset her (just like it upset everyone close to me). Because of all this, I have been on the fence about him being involved in my life and my child's life before I got pregnant. This interaction proved to me that he hasn't changed and doesn't truly care about my wellbeing (and therefore my child's). It might be different if they were only swinging by for a an hour or two but a week + stay sounds terrible to me, at any stage.