Boyfriend

I love my boy friend so much. And he loves me the same. We have been dating for almost 2 years. I want nothing but to love with him so bad. He freaks out and locks up anytime I talk about it. He says he just doesn’t want to. He’s worried when we move in together we’ll just fight. Now we don’t fight at all. I think he doesn’t have any good example of a healthy relationship. I think he associates living together with domestic aggression. It lowers my self esteem too because I get in my own head like “why doesn’t he want to live with me does he he not think I’m the one am I not good enough”

But I don’t want to wait around forever. He’s almost 30. At what point do you say “look I want to be a mom and a wife and if you don’t ever want that I need to stop wasting my time” and move on? What’s his deal? What do you guys think?