I think I am finally reaching my breaking point in my marriage...

Looong post, so I apologize in advance.

We have been married a couple of years and have no kids.

My husband seldom shows any interest in me. He doesn’t appreciate anything I do. He works 7 days a week and doesn’t get home until 11pm Monday-Friday. And we haven’t had sex since January. JANUARY!!! He has also suddenly said he now doesn’t not want children after saying he did for the past 3 years..

My marriage is beginning to feel like some sort of sick joke. This is not the life I agreed to and I don’t know what more I can do.

I have tried talking to him about this numerous times. I have tried calmly. I have tried yelling. I have tried while crying. I have tried in a very monotone, non emotional way. I just waste by breath every time. He thinks he does nothing wrong and just “works hard”. I appreciate him working a lot for us to have good money, but I never asked for this. I’d rather spend time with him. Because he works so hard, he is SO attached to our money to the point of it being unhealthy. He checks our online banking hourly when we are apart to make sure I don’t buy anything. If I do buy anything, including groceries it is like coming home to border security. He wants receipts and to know what I bought where and why. It’s becoming ridiculous.

The only thing holding me back from a divorce is:

1. The hope that this will change (even though I know it won’t) and

2. The fact that I love his family and he also has such a strong bond with my youngest brother.

I don’t know if I’m over reacting or if these are valid reasons for a divorce.

Does anyone have some advice on this?