Okay, I think I’m finally ready to try to stop bedsharing. I really and truly think he would sleep better in his own space, and I really miss sleeping with my husband (he’s been in the guest bed since the baby was born... nearly 6 months ago) I have a few questions. Experience especially appreciated from those of you who transitioned from bedsharing to the crib. The crib will be in our bedroom, as I plan to cosleep for a year unless the baby desires otherwise. I plan on doing the pick up/put down and if things go REALLY horribly I’ll just bring him to bed with me and try again the next day.

1) I can count on one hand the number of times he has fallen asleep without a human’s help. Nursing, rocking, whatever the case may be. And I wouldn’t need many fingers to count it, either. He is going to be able to figure it out, right?

2) Should I be trying to do this even more gradually? Would it be better to set up the crib and very slowly get him used to playing in it and then try naps and then move to trying sleep? I just worry that he’d have an easier time figuring out falling asleep without being nursed or rocked at night, when his sleep drive is higher.

3) he nurses soooooo much at night but I know a LOT of it is because he can’t put himself to sleep without it. He literally latches for a second, sucks a few times, unlatches, repeat several times until he falls back asleep. How do I know if he’s really hungry? Should I nurse him every time and put him back down in the crib? Try rocking him first?

4) do I really need blackout shades and a sound machine? We don’t have nor are we allowed to install curtain rods so we’d have to use expensive alternatives to black out the windows (apartment complex is picky about looks, I can’t just use trashbags, it has to look nice from outside the apartment). He doesn’t seem to care at all about white noise I play on my phone so I don’t know if a sound machine would be any different. I leave a box fan on for sleep but it’s not enough to drown out his dad snoring so I dunno if I should get a noise machine to try and cover that up

5) is he even gonna be able to sleep through his dad snoring? I can’t... 😭

If you made it this far thank you. I’m nervous but I think it’s time. (And if it isn’t and he doesn’t cope, we will keep doing what we’re doing and try again in 1-3 months, so no need to tell me I don’t have to 😉 please also don’t suggest extinction methods, gradual or otherwise; he’s a tension builder and he truly does not stop once he gets going, he would NOT fall asleep)