I just want to start off by saying that I’m totally open and appreciative to all opinions, and I understand I may just be pregnant and hormonal.

My mil has over involved herself in my pregnancy and planning for the baby, so I could just be guarded by that. But I genuinely don’t want anyone but my SO at the hospital with me while I’m giving birth, I wish we could even wait a few days after we get back from the hospital to invite people to see the baby but I won’t go that far.

I’m just asking that they come to the hospital AFTER I give birth so I don’t have any distractions, and I know she will be constantly inserting herself in the situation and trying to control it. I talked to my SO kindly about waiting until after the birth for her to come and he seems to think this is abnormal and unreasonable? Am I being unreasonable? Did anyone else let their family stay in the next before and during the birth??

Oh and she also won’t listen to me when I tell her I’m uncomfortable with anyone kissing him on the face, my friends baby was in the hospital for weeks because a family member kissed him and didn’t know they had herpes, he still deals with outbreaks to this day.