I’m just looking for some opinions!

My best friend wants to plan my gender reveal, which is perfectly fine since I planned hers. However she only wants to do a little thing in front of my boyfriend, her, her son, and her boyfriend. Where I want a party type thing, basically a baby shower without the gifts. I want food and drinks, and to be able to spend time with people after finding out the gender, with family and other friends as well. I feel like it’s because hers was a small thing only in front of her mom and the people she wants mine in front of, but that’s how she wanted hers. She wanted a tiny little thing and to go live on Facebook for everyone else. I can’t help but feel like that’s why she doesn’t wanna plan a big one for me, however this is my first and was her second. I offered to plan it my self and just have my sister do the reveal part and she got kind of defensive about it. I told her she didn’t have to pay for anything that me and my boyfriend would take care of it, but she got mad at that to. Maybe bc I paid for her whole thing so she’s trying to do the same, but I dont want a tiny thing and I don’t want her to pay for a party type thing for me. I don’t know how to go about telling her that I tho kind rather do my own! She’s already mad that my sister and my boyfriends sister are planning the baby shower.

I’m kind of at a loss right now 😩! Is it wrong of me to want a party type of thing or should I suck it up and do the small thing to make her happy