I am in an open relationship (marriage) with my husband. We started off doing the swingers with couples, then started exploring singles and now we consider ourselves polyamorous. It tbh saved our relationship, we have so much communication and trust now. And for me there is never any jealousy, and i thought for him as well.

But recently i found a guy who i connect with on so many levels and started "poly-dating". He has a wife and two kids and his wife adores me and is even interested in things with me. But my husband has developed this jealousy that he has never had in his life - he was a huge player before me and cldnt ever stay with just one girl. But now, even though me having a boyfriend we had talked about before, now he is so angry even if i talk about him when before it was hot to talk about my experiences and it enhanced our sex.

He says its bcz he feels like hes being replaced, and i try to talk to him and explain but everything i say goes right through him. Like hes made up his mind and im already in it. I have strong feelings for this guy and dont want to give this relationship up either. My husband is so important to me, i dont know how to help him?