Just wanting to vent and maybe get some advice.

I’m a FTM. I work from home part time and essentially run the household (cook, clean, manage our finances, etc.) so that my husband doesn’t really have to worry about anything when he gets home from work. For the most part my husband has been a godsend throughout my pregnancy. He’s been understanding if I’ve been unable to cook/clean, and he’s really been a rock for me emotionally. He’s even been very understanding that my sex drive has slowed down to almost a complete halt. And for all of this, I’m very thankful.

However. Since I’ve entered my third trimester, it seems like he has become SO LAZY and unwilling to do almost anything to help prepare for the baby. Here are some examples:

(1) I’ve asked him on numerous occasions to help me clean out the car and install the car seat/base. He keeps saying he’ll get to it and doesn’t.

(2) We just purchased a new home together and need to pack/move. Instead of packing or doing anything related to moving, he is on his computer reading manga. When I asked him when we are going to get started today he said “I don’t know, I haven’t thought about it”. We cannot afford to hire movers, and our friends can’t help us until next weekend. I am 36 weeks pregnant and can only do so much on my own. I need his help.

(3) He never offers to help me with ANYTHING. I am still doing all of the cooking/cleaning myself even though he knows some of it is difficult for me.

(4) If I try to talk to him about how I’m feeling he shuts down and goes to be alone in a different room. Keep in mind that I’m calm in my approach and don’t cuss, yell or do anything disrespectful that I feel would warrant being walked away from.

I know he’s been stressed at work, but that’s not an excuse to act like he is. The only thing he wants to do when he gets home or in his free time is read manga and relax with a beer. I NEVER get to relax because not only am I incredibly pregnant, but I am the one doing all of the preparation for the baby.

I mentioned to him that I don’t feel like we’ve been on the same wavelength lately and he agreed and then said “well forcing it never works for us”. So, what? I’m just supposed to wait for him to come around to want to be a good husband? How can I expect him to be a good father and partner once the baby is born? I feel like I can’t count on him for anything at all at this point.