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Those who withhold the rod hate their children, but the one who loves them applies discipline. 
(Proverbs 13:24)
I get most of my parenting from the Bible, because there isn’t a book on how to raise your children, so the Bible is my main source. I don’t believe in beating the crap out of your kid, but I do believe in spanking, and there is a HUGE difference between spanking and child abuse. I have two boys, one 4, and one 6. It can get really hectic around the house. Both of my boys are hard headed,stubborn, and mischievous. Sometimes putting them in the corner just doesn’t do it. They think we’ll if I don’t clean my room I just stand in a corner for five minutes okay, but when they get a spanking they think wow mom or dad is serious and that hurt so I’m gonna clean my room now. Most of the time it even only takes the threat of a spanking to get them to shape up. What do you guys think? And do y’all use the bible as a good source? Have a blessed day! 😊

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I do not use a book written by men centuries ago as my guide for parenting in the 21st century. 
Corporal punishment is lazy, ineffective parenting at its most benign and dangerous and detrimental parenting at its worst.
None of that belongs in a relationship that a child has with their parent and vice versa.

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Nope. I would never use physical violence nor the threat of it as a method to get my children to do anything. There’s lots of research showing that physical discipline is less effective than other methods.

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Do you hit other adults when they don’t do what you want?
Oh no? Because that would be assault. 
So you use your words to communicate with people with whom you disagree? Great, model that damn behavior for your children.

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Err. There are plenty of books on raising children. Also, proverb are generally not meant to be taken literally. It doesn’t mean ‘spank your child’ it means ‘if you love them you will teach your child there are consequences for bad behaviour’

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absolutely not. it’s been psychologically proven that spanking does nothing at best. at worst it creates a fear towards the parent that never goes away

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I support a parents right to use light  physical discipline if they so choose. 
I was brought up on spankings, taps round the back of the head and well most old school parenting discipline methods. It worked, I grew up respectful and ended up acting right for my parents when clearly I needed telling. What works for one might not work for another and that’s fine but I definitely do not judge a parent for doing this and plan on doing it myself if  I feel necessary. You do you mama.

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Um, there are TONS of books on how to raise your children?! 😳 If you actually read a few, you'd know how bad spanking is for children.

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Absolutely not. I'd never use physical punishment. In my eyes that's like saying to them that it's ok to hit someone if they don't do what you want. 
I give my kids time out or take away a you for a while.

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Also, what you stated earlier is true. Children have a sin nature because we all have come short and until they ask the Lord to help them they are wild at times. I have 2 daughters that I consider mine but I have to say Step but they know me as friendly parent and would not listen at times and challenge my authority.  Now, I was a daycare teacher and I love kids but on a personal level I see nothing wrong with a tap on the bottom. My daughter now respects me and doesn't try to use the last resource. She knows I love her and would never hurt her in anyway. I was spanked as a child and I just don't see how it harms thembif some correctly . I have used many methods because I don't like to spank but there had to be boundaries especially for us that know the Lord it's not always cakes and rainbows.

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We should aspire to be like Jesus in every aspect of our lives. I cannot imagine him ever hitting a child in order to punish or teach them. Therefore I would never do so myself. Yet it is also not my place to judge others for how they choose to raise their children. If anyone is in any doubt about what to do for the best, I would advise praying and asking God for wisdom in this area.

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