Keep or abortion

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Tara

my first born just turn 9 months. I am accidentally pregnant. I am 40. I had a hard pregnancy with my first. Water broke at 35 weeks... was in hospital till c-section at 38 weeks. Two days in ICU. Four days after I got home I was re-hospitalized for postpartum preeclampsia.

Oh and I had diabetes while pregnant needing insulin needles.

My son is perfect.

I don’t know what to do. My job I get no maternity leave. Not sure can afford another or if my body can handle it.

Any advice is appreciated.

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Je

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I’m sorry you’re in the situation but honestly no one can answer this for you. Just take some time and think on it. Pray (If religions) just soul search and figure out what’s best for you and your child. What you can and can’t handle. I wish the best for you and hope it all works out for you.

Ay

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This is a blessing and meant to be. It’s so much harder to get pregnant as you get older and to have them so close together they would be so close . You may in a few years want another and it may be too late . I’d say go with your heart , whatever you do . Make sure it’s the right decision for you . All the best x

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Kara • Aug 6, 2019
I agree with this 100%, but it’s nobody’s decision to make but your own. You have to live with the decision either way, so it has to be right for you. Sending you love and prayers.

Je

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Do what you think is best. It’s your choice. If you think it will be too dangerous don’t do it. If you want a doctors opinion get one. Do what is right for you.

Je

Jeannie • Aug 6, 2019
The most you can do is think on it no one is able to answer for you. I would speak to your doctor for the medical side of things. You should also think on your own to think about what you can emotionally do. All options can be really hard, talk to some people who have gone though with different opinions. Whatever you decided is right don’t worry about the what If just think about the now. Personally I would remove money from it because that can always change and you can always able for state add.

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Tara • Aug 5, 2019
It’s the what if’s that killing me:(

Ja

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I have awful pregnancies. So I will say this. Is this something you want? Because, you’re putting your life at risk and your unborn babies life at risk. Who would care for your son if something happens to you?

Ar

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It's your body mama I would feel super lucky to be pregnant at ur age ( don't take me wrong ) I'm almost turning 40 it's been 7 months since I had a still birth at 21 weeks and 6 days and nothing yet.. but at the end you know your situation just think about it really hard so there are no regrets. Good luck hun

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Arianne • Aug 5, 2019
Talk to ur Dr about it... That will probably help some

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Tara • Aug 5, 2019
I also had heart problems and was put on blood pressure medication and was an outpatient at the hospital for three months I am lucky that my heart went back to normal

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Arianne • Aug 5, 2019
I'm so sorry you are in this situation.. think about it long and hard and make the best desicion for u

Na

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You’re incredible brave to ask for help on this topic. I wish you nothing but the best in whatever decision you make.

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Tara • Aug 6, 2019
Thank you!! I need all the help I can get.:(

Ni

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Only you can decide that. And husband/SO. Being only 9 months PP from c section will not be easy, you’ll be high risk for that and age.

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Kara • Aug 6, 2019
It sounds like this is more of a medical decision. I would really discuss it with your doctor. ❤️

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Nini • Aug 5, 2019
Yeah it’s very risky.

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Tara • Aug 5, 2019
My heart had a hard time last one. I Had fluid on my brain and lungs and was hospitalized for five days after I had him and I was super swollen I was an out patient for three months because of my heart