My mother in law is usually a sweetheart, she has helped me and my husband out throughout the years since the day we got married 7 years ago.

We were very poor when we were starting out and she gave us a place to stay, she has also been known to spoil our daughter...more than we'd like sometimes, but really we are grateful.

At one point 5 years ago she bought our daughter an Ikea bed and 2 years ago she bought her a little desk.

Well we moved again, for the 4th time in 5 years and my husband and I are burnt out over how difficult the Ikea bed is to take apart and reassemble. It's also scratched up and has seen better days. We decided since we can afford it -- to upgrade our daughter's bed. Nothing elaborate, just a nice new $200 bed frame that is easier to move. We also found out we are having another baby and they will have to share a room, as such we decided to leave her desk behind too. She already has a bookshelf and a toy box in her room along with all her toys. We need to fit a crib and changing table in there too.

Well today my mother in law asked if we moved everything and I don't like to lie, so we told her that we left the bed and desk. We explained why -- she lives 8 hours drive away so it's not like she could have come pick up the items if she still wanted them. She got very snarky with me "did you leave all her clothes and book and toys behind too?!"

Then she got upset that we moved so fast because she had sent a package of baby clothes to the old apartment - the have parcel pending - and she was mad we won't be there to pick it up when it arrives.

Her generosity over the years has been a blessing for us, but it bothers me that she acts entitled to how we should live our lives. Things get old, we run out of space, and we also get to decide what is and is not any longer appropriate for our children.

There have been times were we have asked her to calm down on the toys and then she will ignore that and buy 15+ toys at Christmas. This usually equates to us having to make room by donating old toys -- then she gets upset that we don't have x, y, and z toys anymore.

I feel bad about the little desk because it is useful and I wish we had room for it, but with the new baby coming we just don't. Am I in the wrong here? Should I find a spot to cram the desk?

Obviously the bed needed to be upgraded and I really feel no guilt about that...what do you guys think?

Thanks in advance.