My husband wants a huge 50th bday party. (Yes he is old as hell)

I have been busting my ass planning his party, and now it’s coming up next weekend.

He wants me to let our friends watch the baby overnight so we can drink and let loose, but since I am pumping/breastfeeding overnight I can’t drink much anyway, and the thought of handing my child over at this big party, is giving me so much anxiety. I do not want to do it.

I would rather have a babysitter at the party (it’s at another friend’s fancy house) and then come home late with my baby verses driving there, and then letting someone else go home in my car with my baby while we Uber home. I trust the people he wants to watch her but damn, I’m so stressed at the thought of being away from her overnight.

What would you do?????