Is it fair for someone to be mad at you because you're mad at them? Details below.

So for years I've been complaining about the same things to my husband.

But I didn't complain daily and still did things as normal. But I keep telling him I'm losing my patience...

So finally I reached the point that I'm done. So I stopped trying. I stopped cooking. I stopped caring. I am just mad at this point.

So now what? He is leaving me because I'm not affectionate enough.

Wait what? I've had issues with him for so long but kept waiting and waiting... Bc I am mad but I figured we'd fix things... But the moment I stop trying... thinking it would be a wake up call... He's done with me.

Is that normal? My behavior is a reaction to his actions and I guess my reaction caused him to react in this manner instead of what I had hoped. Did I just answer my own question?

But I mean that's not fair. If I'm mad I'm allowed to be mad and stop trying right? If he's acting this way then maybe it wasn't worth it!??! He honestly thinks I no longer love him now.

When I'm like DUDE I LOVE YOU SO MUCH I IGNORED MY UNHAPPINESS AL THIS TIME SO YOU COULD FIX THINGS... I've just been waiting for you to fix it... It's answer? "yeah but you don't love me"

I quit.