If that’s what you want to call her.. idk... So to start off we became friends last August. She started dating my bf’s best friend (we are all over 20 btw, even though it’s gonna sound like some high school crap) So I wanted to make friends with her so we all can hangout. Anyways, we were really good friends but the past few months she’s kind of changed I guess? Or she’s just now showing her true colors..

she is VERY controlling over her boyfriend . And it hurts me and my boyfriend seeing him being treated like this, but he doesn’t want to make her mad so he doesn’t say anything. She doesn’t let him hang out with friends. He is a volunteer firefighter and she wants him to quit. And if you know him, you know that is his life.

My bf owns his own vinyl graphic business and we go to shows and set up. Well this past weekend we had a 3 day truck event show. We all went plus 2 of my boyfriends other buddies that help him. She had to leave Saturday evening due to she had to work Sunday. So at this show, you stay over and sleep in your camper or whatever you brought. And it’s just a chill time. Well before she left she goes in front of everyone to her boyfriend “I don’t care if you drink”. So the night goes on, we are in the camper playing Yahtzee and having a few drinks. She calls him yelling at him asking him how much he had to drink (mind you he didn’t even have 1 yet). Let’s just say he stopped drinking the rest of the night and sat in the truck on the phone with her trying to calm her down.

It’s ridiculous..

she threatens him that she will basically kill her self or break up. And he gets torn of what to do because he says he loves her but she needs to stop. He’s tried to get her to go see a therapist but she doesn’t. And she will act like my best friend but when I’m not around she will talk shit. She bashes me because I have an office job and all I do is “sit on my ass” all day. It really upsets me. She acts like we are competition because anytime I get a new tattoo she has to schedule one right after for one in the same spot. (She did this 2 times already , 1 of them being this week .) I just don’t know what to do or how to help.. Do I try to stick around and try to be her friend or should I just say fuck it? I also don’t want her boyfriend getting hurt ..