We just moved to a new state from Atlanta away from our family so we dont have the same help and outlet we had at our hands now. We have a 4 year old that was sleeping alone in her own room and bed when we first got our place , But she left for the summer in may to stay with both her grandparents (My side and dads side) Now when she left she was still on a pacifier (I know I tried everything but she hid her stash ) But , My mom got her off of them within 2 weeks of being in Atlanta ; But when she would go to dads parents house his mother would give her everything back and have her sleep in the bed with both her and grandpa (Dont mind but she had already been sleeping alone) I asked her not to put our daughter in the bed with them every night. I didnt want her to stop wanting to sleep in her own room & bed from being so comfortable sleeping with grandma and pop, But my husbands mom literally would not listen to me ; He even spoke up about it and she still disregarded our request. Now that she is home and we have been trying to get her to sleep alone it is like starting completely over . She cries like she is being hurt if we leave her in her room after she falls asleep Ive even let her cry and she will just come lay on out floor until we let her get in our bed . So for the past 2 weeks I just sleep in her room with her . But I really miss waking up to my husband holding me in his arms it kind of feels like we are just sharing a house to an extent if that makes sense (Like we still have sex but we dont get us time anymore and when we do have sex we cant cuddle anymore because it’s really always quickies now because our daughter follows behind me so literally we have to try where we can for anything ) I dont want to sound selfish (even though I feel like I am But I dont even get the best sleep anymore (My daughter sleeps so wildly its uncomfortable) she also refuses to let dad sleep with her so I sleep about 2-4hours every night I try to snag a nap but its not always possible Im self employed and my phone is always going off during the day . I just want to get my daughter back to that big girl she was before she left so I can get my good sleep again and my husband back .