I live in the Dominican Republic and there is a shit ton of taboo and beliefs that people have been dumping on me since my loss.

That I shouldn’t get pregnant because I can’t have babies.

That from now on after two losses to have a baby I would need treatments or pills.

That if I get pregnant again right after my loss I will have problems again.

That I need to recover at least three months from my loss (some people told me I need three years for my uterus to recover even)

What is the truth of the matter?

My doctor has me on progesterone to keep everything intact, I am taking prenatals everyday and watching everything.

I don’t want to tell a soul until I know I’m good and the baby is at a point where I can say I’m progressing well, and out of the risk zone.

I hate that I feel so uneducated on miscarriage. Supposedly it is a very normal occurrence. Some women go through it many times before a healthy pregnancy, some in between pregnancies... it is natures way of dispelling something that wasn’t meant to be.

I realized this one day when I glanced at some baby coconuts in the sand that did not quite make it to full size. I looked up then, to see plenty of very ripe and full coconuts hanging from the same tree that shed the babies. It made me feel a little better about my loss because the tree is still standing strong and has her grown coconuts regardless. Nature knows what it does. That’s why I’m not scared. Whatever happens, happens.

Can anyone clarify if I am at risk because I am pregnant immediately after my loss?

What steps can I take to be healthier for my baby?

Can anyone offer any helpful information?

Are my levels okay for my time frame?

How can I calculate my due date?