During your childhood they abused your mother in many different ways, verbally abused you, and also made sexual comments about you as a child? My mother is still together with my step father and is mad at me for not allowing him to be apart of her life what so ever. (he's been sober for over a year now) is her reasoning. To me it's something I've healed from but I will never allow my child be in contact with. My mother is totally allowed to be apart of my child's life as much as she wishes as long as he isn't around or she comes to visit her at my home. She claims because of everything she's been though that she can't handle coming to my house to see her grandbaby.