Well we got a call today saying the safety plan we had wasn't going to work and that my husbands dad who is being accused of molesting our older daughters had to leave the house right away. Well my husband had to go talk to him and tell him what was going on and his dad said he was going to kill himself. My poor husband is so broken he said no matter what he's lost his dad. Well his dad took off and texted at 12:30 saying he was going to kill himself and that to tell all the kids he does love them and that he was shutting his phone off and no one has heard from him since. We are just so crushed we had never suspected he'd be capable of something like this. We didn't find out until last night. We both are feeling like we failed as parents. Idk even know how to handle my feelings on all this. We are just so devastated over this. We confided in our best friends about what's going on since they are at our house several times a week and even they had no idea something like this was occurring. Cops won't do anything to help find his dad and put him in the hospital but my husband feels in his gut that his dad has already killed himself. This is gonna ruin all my kids. I'm so scared to tell them what happened to grandpa. I'm just really hoping they find the body so that my husband can get some closure. I've been trying my best to hold back my tears and be strong for my kids.

The kids are definitely our top priority and concern that's why idk how we are gonna tell them the news. I just wanna wrap my kids in a bubble and not let them out ever again.

Still no word from his dad police haven't found him called all the hospitals in the area and in the state below us and they don't have him. My husband can barely function some of the kids are devastated that grandpa left and never came back. My poor girls are blaming themselves for him taking off the way he did. I hope he is found alive but no one at all has seen or heard from him. This is just a horrible situation all the way around.

Btw I should add my husband and I's first anniversary is this Sunday. What I wanted to be a time of happiness is going to be left in this mess. Idk or understand how his dad could have done this to my girls and then took off and said he was taking the easy way out. I just want to wake up from this nightmare.

FYI I'm not backwards I care about my daughters and how that would affect them. They would forever blame themselves and that is something I do not want for either of them. I also care about how it would hurt my husband. We are putting our kids first above all else and to be told we aren't is infuriating.

UPDATE

His dad refuses to call the investigator or anything. Cps set up mandatory counseling for my husband and myself. The older boy and my 5 year old are taking it the hardest. They aren't understanding why grandpa took off without his oxygen or meds. I should have mentioned he has congestive heart failure and COPD. We are all just suffering. My husbands dad was helping us out financially a lot because I can't work especially with a high risk pregnancy. My older daughters are a lot less stressed out since grandpa left and that is good I just want them to be ok. My husband is still a big mess. Wanting to move forward yet he's stuck and feels like we are in limbo especially since his dad is hiding won't cooperate with anything.