My husband ALWAYS talks negatively about the kids.

Always complaining about them, getting short with them within an hour of getting home from work, bumming out when it’s the weekend, etc...

I asked him what his deal is and he said he just doesn’t have patience for their ages (almost 2 and 5). During the conversation I asked if he found any joy in them and he said “very little”. During that same conversation He said he it wasn’t in his DNA to be a dad. Moms are more “nurturing” when kids cry and dads just want to make them stop. Which it is true but combined with the other.has me very sad 😔

I have heard him talk to other people about our kids and it’s the same negative context. He’s always bummed out and I’m always doing 80% of the work. He helps out with bedtime and some other things, but I think the guy changes 2-3 diapers a week on our little.

Now don’t get me wrong my kids can be hard sometimes, but I had a long talk with him about how good they are compared to others. AND they are healthy kids. They are good natured, funny, witty, sensitive and good kids. We should be so THANKFUL. Even after that talk he still had negative comments. Half the time he’s home I’m trying to make him comfortable and not annoyed. Weekends are more exhausting for me.

I don’t know what to do. I’ve had talks and talks with him. Nothing changes.

Also note he had to convince me to have kids because I was on the fence at first. He said his whole life he wanted a family and kids. A chance to rewrite his history (basically raised himself from 10 on). And now this.

I am just tired and exhausted of feeling like we are a burden. Thoughts?