What is it with men and birthdays? Or, to be more exact, ANY holiday/anniversary/special occasion?

Today was my birthday. My SO and I have been together for more than 10 glorious, wonderful years, and we have several children. Every single Father's Day, valentines day, birthday, and Christmas, I make sure to do something thoughtful for him from myself and our children, taking account of his interest and ALWAYS make sure to implement everything in a timely manner with - GASP - Not a single reminder from him about the impending date.

So, right now money is tight for us. Understandable to me because, as I said previously we have several children and it is back to school season. Keeping this in mind, when he came home from work yesterday and asked what I wanted for my birthday I said a clean house. Something we could do together for free.

I spent the ENTIRE day cleaning and catching up on laundry and he said he would clean the table off and clean the bathrooms... He did not do either of those things. Ok, that's fine. Maybe he was feeling particularly worn out after work and would surely be more willing to help on my actual birthday.

Nope. He came home from work today and after a few minutes went upstairs and took a two hour nap. I figure maybe he had planned something else and was waiting until later? Here it is, 11:50 at night and he and I have barely spoken. I finally got up the nerve to ask him and he said he didn't get me anything.

When I asked him why he said, "idk, because usually whatever you want gets pushed aside and forgotten."

This. Broke. My. HEART.

Pushed aside and forgotten? That's who I am to him? 10 years.

It has been 10 years of me putting so much thought into everything and even when I spell out a simple request I am hung out to dry, not even worth the effort. I seriously cannot understand.

And before ya'll start complaining that gifts aren't everything: I know that. The point of this post is that I dont feel like I am even worth the thought and he proved as much with what he said. Are all men like this?? I feel so worthless.